Archive for January 2011


Why I Love Working Out

January 24th, 2011 — 11:27pm

Man I love working out. Actually, I don’t. Anyone who tells you that working out is awesome is probably trying to sell you something. Most of the time I spend in the gym is suffering and generally unpleasant. Maybe if I spent more time concentrating on my form and really “practicing the art” mastery-style or some shit, but no. But what I do love are the results.

It’s just so easy. My body is looking nicer every week. Today I weighed in at 172 lbs with 15% body fat. On January 22 last year, I weighed 212lbs with 22% body fat. But the best part of it is that I know if I continue to put in my gym time and I continue to adhere to a strict diet…my sexy form will emerge.

One of my favorite blog posts of all time is Jacob Sokol’s 10 epiphanies on Optimal Living. With my attitude towards exercise I am Being my goals (healthy lifestyle, play sports), Consistency over intensity (no exceptions), Baby step style (not weight lifting my max weight), Ten Thousand hours (diligence.. putting in my time), Fundamentals first thing (gym 3x/week).

The path is really laid out there. If I put in the time, I am going to win. All I really have to do is

* work out 3x/week
* mind my posture and straighten up whenever possible
* not eat crap except for on Saturday, my cheat day.

I am really lucky that I have awesome friends who support my goal. Today I was meeting my friend Ashish for lunch and while waiting for him to finish up, I started snacking on chips. He yelled at me “You aren’t going to get a six pack by eating chips.” So while our environment can really distract us from getting what we want, it can also help us get what we want.

And this sort of faith in the process applies to other areas of my life. For example when I am single and looking to meet a girl, I know that if I simply go out and talk to women my love life will take care of itself.

But what sucks is I don’t feel the same way about business. I do not feel that If I continue on the course I am on, the results will take care of themselves. But I wonder if there’s a way to apply this to my business life. Because at the present moment I feel that if I keep doing what I’m doing, the results are not just going to take care of themselves.

I wonder what the fundamental regular practices of a successful businessman are. I wonder what the mannerisms are… how he carries himself. I am strongly considering booking a ticket to Affiliate Summit East simply to mingle with more accomplished businessmen.

I also feel like I do too much damn bookreadin’.

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Notes from Dr. Robert Lustig’s talk on Sugar – The Bitter Truth

January 20th, 2011 — 7:58pm

The brilliant Dr. Robert Lustig from UCSF delivered an engaging and rewarding lecture on sugar that has been quite popular on YouTube. I found it very interesting and enjoyable but struggled to remember all of the key concepts as they’re ideas I want to share with people, so I watched it again and took notes on it this time.

The TL;DR of the talk is don’t eat fructose because it doesn’t get metabolized – it’s a poison and will make you fat. Try to eat more fiber, too.

notes follow

sugar does not stimulate leptin (satiety hormone)
sugar in coke – more salt – salt is diuretic – makes you thirsty – compensates by adding HFCS

white table sugar – sucrose – 100 sweetness. HFCS is 120–sweeter. ppl use HFCS as perf substitute though.
fructose is 173 sweetness
glucose 74, lactose 15.
HFCS is 1 glucose 6-ring + 1 fructose 5-ring.
glucose/fructose in gut bound together, sucrase kills it instantly
HFCS and sucrose are basically the same

fructose is a poison – not about the calories
adolescents: 25% of calories from fructose.. consuming 72.8gm/day
natural consumption of fruits/vegetables = 15gm/day

1970s discovery of LDL — low density lipoproteins
mid 1970s dietary fat raises LDL (A->B)
late 1970s LDL correlated with CardioVascularDdisease (B->C)
1982 if A->B and B->C, then fat increases cvd

but – maybe CVD just correlates to saturated fat AND sugar eaten in conjunction — not, simply, fat.
large light buoyant – pattern A LDL – they float through the bloodstream. no chance to get under edge of epithelial cells in vasculature to begin the plaque formation process
pattern B – small dense LDL — they get under the edge of epithelial cells and start the plaque formation
when you get an LDL you get both LDLs. can’t measure them distinctly.
desirable: low trigylceride; high HDL. == good cholesterol
pattern B LDLs – high trigylceride, low HDL. will cause a heart attack.
dietary fat raises large buoyant.
small dense raised by carbohydrate.

1975 cheap introduction of HFCS
so we started cutting down on our fat and increasing our sugar

removed fiber from foods – takes too long to cook / too long to eat / shelf life

in order to combat CVD we added fat free foods. we compensated their terrible taste by adding sugar. So adding a lot of sugar is really bad for you, since fat is good but the wrong fat is bad for you.

fructose is 7 times more likely than glucose to form advanced glycation end-products (AGE’s) — browning
fructose does not suppress ghrelin (hunger hormone)
acute fructose does not stimulate insulin (or leptin)
no receptor for fructose – no transport for fructose – on the beta cell that makes insulin. so the insulin doesn’t go up.
since insulin doesn’t go up, leptin doesn’t go up
hepatic fructose metabolism is different
chronic fructose exposure promotes the Metabolic Syndrome: obesity, type 2 diabetes, cvd, hypertension, lipid problems

120 calories in glucose, 2 slices of whitebread
80% or 96kcal used in body
24 calories will hit the liver
stmiulates the pancrease to make insulin,
glycogen is non-toxic storage of glucose in liver. it’s good, you can store up on it
maybe 1 calorie ends up as VLDL(fat, heart disease, … ? look up vldl)

ethanol is a poison
fructose not metabolized by brain

metabolism of 120 kcal ethanol
stomach & intestine first pass effect 10%
kidney muscle brain 10%
==24 cal

96 cal hit liver. way more than in glucose: 4x more.

in glucose half of calories made it to mitochondria..

120cal sucrose: 1 glass of OJ
“same 120 calories, 3 different substrates”
60 cal glucose
12 into liver
48 for rest of the body
80/20
all 60 cal of fructose metabolized by liver bc only the liver CAN metabolize fructose
= poision

==>
72 calories need to be phosphorylated (12 from glucose 60 from fructose). volume issue.

(sugar -> uric acid -> gout/hypertension)
gatorade contains HFCS because it helps you restore your glycogen levels faster than just glucose, after they’re severely depleted, since you have the extra fructose and calories on the substrate

fructose increases de novo lipogenesis in normal
increases free fatty acids, trigylcerides,

eat carbs with fiber

why is exercise important in obesity?
because it burns calories? c’mon, no. 20min jogging = 1 choc chip cookie. you can’t do it.
it does improve skeletal muscle sensitivity
endogenous stress reducer
you burn the stuff off before you make the fat — makes TCA cycle run faster
citrate doesn’t get to leave the mitochondria
detoxifies fructose – improves hepatic insulin sensitivity

fiber
reduces rate of intestinal carbohydrate absorption, reducing insulin response
– bacteria get to it
– “fat or fart”
increase speed of transit of intestinal contents to the ileum, to raise PYY and induce satiety
inhibits absorption of some free fatty acids to the colon, which are metabolized by colonic bacteria to the short-chain fatty acids(SCFA), which suppress insulin
(insulin says STORE glucose/glycogen in liver and muscle)

calories reaching liver == huge thing

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ZacharyBurt.com 2010: traffic & monetization statistics / top 10 paradigm-busting books

January 15th, 2011 — 6:48am

ZacharyBurt.com launched in 2010 with the first post on January 3. 170,000 pageviews were generated by 87,00 unique visitors.

I’ve made $525 in advertising fees off affiliate links. This is a CPM of about $3.10 – somewhat low given the intelligent and educated reader demographic, but pretty good. Incidentally, the amount of time I spent reading books, noting them, transcribing my notes for the computer and then trying to get fit my notes into some sort of logically cohesive structure would make my immediate wage about $1/hr but that’s not why I do the blog – I do it for me (to learn, to organize my thoughts, to refine my ideas) and I do it to share (to help educate, to get others’ feedback and correction on my ideas, to signal what I’m about and to attract like-minded people).

So, without further ado, the top 10 books I read in 2010:

10. Operating Manual for Spaceship Earth
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Buckminster Fuller was clearly a genius way ahead of his time. His discussion of Great Pirates totally changed the way I think about class and education in America.

9. Click: The Magic of Instant Connections
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I loved the central insight that clicking with someone is more about quantity of commonalities than quality. The book also provided a great framework for understanding other factors that lead to a “click”, which is great if you want to engineer more harmony in your life or organization. It’s also served as a sign post to a big social principle that’s been coalescing for a while; the fundamental importance of tribal identity.

8. Emotional Intelligence
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Daniel Goleman’s underscoring of the importance of the amygdala in driving emotion and behavior is so critical for understanding human emotional life. This concept is central in improving my perception of the social dynamics in a room. I  do wish the book served more of a manual for improving emotional intelligence.

7. Delivering Happiness
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It is the perfect book for this blog – Delivering Happiness brings together principles from personal development, positive psychology and smart business – and the author Tony Hsieh ties them together through the phenomenon of interpersonal synchrony, or “feeling like you belong in the group”. With regards to distribution of mood and emotion, 2010 was not a very happy year for me overall, but while reading Delivering Happiness I felt moments of serenity and happiness.

6. Buddha’s Brain
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This was the most popular book with ZacharyBurt.com readers; I can trace 45 anonymous purchases through Amazon. Rick Hanson manages to explain what’s going on with mindfulness practices by grounding them in real neuroscience. Now I really understand that when I need to counteract stress, I can exhale and activate my parasympathetic nervous system. I know that touching lips is a soothing behavior and it releases oxytocin. I even sometimes give myself little back massages when I’m stressed to achieve the same benefits. A practical and edifying read. Oh yeah, and it totally refined my understanding of attention (relevant for personal development; focus; social dynamics).

5. Eating Animals
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Eating Animals is an emotional tour de force and half way through reading the book I immediately transitioned into a vegetarian diet. I now practice a vegan diet, though I would eat wild-caught animals I had full knowledge of how they were captured. I have lost almost 40 pounds since January 1 2010: I now weigh 175 lbs; I peaked at nearly 217 last year. By avoiding inconsistencies in my ethical practice, I can actually now use my values as a compass for decision making. Don’t be alarmed: I plan to read The Vegetarian Myth this year and welcome suggestions for other thoughtfully considered anti-vegan literature.

4. Made to Stick
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How to get people to remember your ideas” was one of my most popular blog posts, and it borrowed from the Heath brothers’ sticky mnemonic for memorability: SUCCESsful ideas are Simple, Unexpected, Concrete, Credible, Emotional & told through a Story. If I put every blog post through the SUCCESs filter I would certainly be a more effective writer; to that end, one of my aims in 2011 is to improve my storytelling abilities. Look out for a blog post on that soon.

3. Zen Flesh, Zen Bones
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This book of beautiful, emotional, profound, relevant, practical gems is a treasure.

2. The Inner Game of Tennis
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Timothy Gallwey’s book is not only a great practical guide to skill improvement and it also emphasizes the tremendous relevance of mimetic learning. If you are interested in skill development or simply want to become more of threat on the tennis court / basketball court / billiards table / etc…. this book will serve your purpose.

1. Julian Jaynes – The Origin of Consciousness in the Breakdown of the Bicameral Mind.
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A fascinating, brilliant book, I haven’t had the time to post about it because there’s just too much to write and think about. The book itself is on the order of 400 pages and getting through it was an (enjoyable) ordeal itself; I’m not ready to revisit it yet. On my first reading I discovered discussion on the themes of history; art; language; the social group/tribe; the role of the alpha male in the direction of tribal activity; religion; the leader/follower dichotomy; confidence, presence, and the phonological loop; working memory; thinking for yourself; coming into your own as a person.

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The amazing and powerful things I learned from Josh Kaufman’s book The Personal MBA (notes)

January 13th, 2011 — 2:59am

review / notes of Josh Kaufman’s The Personal MBA

I recently finished Josh Kaufman’s book The Personal MBA. Josh is the author of the website http://www.personalmba.com – the premise is simple: teach you basic business school concepts without the 2-year curriculum and $100k+ price tag. The book’s not perfect – for example, the introduction (34 pages) is about 33 pages too long– but I still got a ton of value from it. I also know that in the future, when stuck or hunting for ideas on how to improve my marketing or sales efforts, flipping through his discussion on those topics is likely to inspired creative solutions.

The Personal MBA is available on Amazon for $15.04.

Here are my notes – these are the concepts that I found to be most important and relevant to me at this stage of my development. (This is a long post. Each of these concepts could easily be extended into an individual thoughtful blog post. Perhaps in the future I will expand – but for now I am posting to share, and also so I have a reference I can use for review later. For me, many of these ideas merit regular review.)

5 parts of every business:
value creation: discovering what people need or want, then creating it
marketing: attracting attention & building demand for what you’ve created
sales: turning prospects into paying customers
value delivery: giving your customers what you’ve promised & ensure they’re satisfied
finance: bringing in enough money to keep going and making your effort worthwhile

iron law of market: you are limited by the size and quality of the market you serve

5 core human drives:
drive to acquire: physical objects, status, power, influence, fame.
drive to bond: feel valued and loved by forming relationships with others, either platonic or romantic. restaurants/conferences/dating services. companies that promise to make you attractive/well-liked/highly regarded
drive to learn. satisfy our curiosity. competence/skills
drive to defend: home alarm, insurance, martial arts, legal services
drive to feel: new sensory stimulus/emotional experiences/pleasure/excitement/entertainment/anticipation.

Reflection: How can my blog post titles hit on each of these human drives? Ditto with marketing emails.

evaluating a market:
urgency
market size
pricing potential
cost of customer acquisition
cost of value delivery
uniqueness of offer
speed to market
up-front investment
upsell potential (related secondary offers. frisbee=bad, razor=good)
evergreen potential (build it once)

if you can get a prospective customer’s attention as soon as they become interested in what you’re offering, you become the standard by which competing offers are evaluated. example1 – new parents get a care package from hospital. young men get a free blade from gilette. etc

your job as a marketer isn’t to convince people to want what you’re offering: it’s to help your prospects convince themselves that what you’re offering will help them get what they really want (their core human drives). the more closely connected your product is to a core human drive, the more effective your marketing activities will be

once you take car for a test drive, you start to imagine what your life would be like if you owned this vehicle. fantasizing. you’ve stopped comparing and started *wanting*. once you start wanting, you’ll probably buy – it’s only a matter of time. dale carnegie: “Arouse .. an eager want”. it makes me wonder if there’s a systematic way to jolt people into fantasy mode. clearly it has something to play on the ego. revisiting my post on games criminals play, i find that you want to initiate a ME versus THEM mentality. they are DIFFERENT from everyone else (whereas the truth is people are generic and all exhibit the same core human drives, though perhaps w/ different weighting)

have them visualize what their life would be like once they’ve accepted your offer. how can your marketing and sales efforts support this vision?

a hook is a single phrase or sentence that describes an offer’s primary benefit

the best businesses in the world earn the trust of their prospects and help them understand why the offer is worth paying for

four pricing methods:
replacement cost; market comparison; discounted cash flow/net present value (how much is it worth if it can bring money in over time); value comparison (who is this particularly valuable to?).

value-based selling is the process of understanding and reinforcing the reasons why your offer is valuable to the purchaser.

by investing energy in making your prospects smarter, you simultaneously build Trust in your expertise and make them better customers. work the dunning-kruger effect to your advantage.

the more you know about the other party’s alternatives, the more attractively you can Frame your total offer by Bundling/Unbundling various options

barriers to purchase.

1. it costs too much – loss aversion – also causes buyer’s remorse
2. it won’t work – the offer won’t provide the promised benefits
3. it won’t work for ME – the offer is capable of providing benefits to other people but that they’re different – a special case
4. i can wait. the problem is not worth addressing right now.
5. it’s too difficult. if the offer takes any effort whatsoever on their part…

objection#1 addressed by: framing and value-based selling. if it’s clear that the value of you offer far exceeds the asking price, the objection is moot. e.g. you buy $5 in roses for your girlfriend she spends you 3 hours cooking dinner, massaging your back, etc
objection#2 and #3 best addressed by social proof – showing the prospect how customers JUST LIKE THEM are already benefitting from your offer. the more like your prospect your stories and testimonials are, the better. that’s why referrals are so powerful: customers refer ppl who have similar situations and needs, so referral itself helps break down these objections
–think: rapleaf, using demographic data to reframe the sales page
objection#4 and #5 are best addressed via education-based selling; customers don’t realize they have a problem, absence blindness. if the business doesn’t realize it’s losing $10mm it’s difficult to convince them you can help. thus focus your early sales efforts on making your customers smarter by teaching them what you know about their business, them helping them visualize what their involvement would be.

make it a priority every 3 to 6 months to contact your lapsed customers with another offer to see if you can encourage them to start buying again, and you’ll be amazed by the results.
“Ridiculously awesome improvements to AwesomenessReminders” <— no. frame it in terms of BENEFITS TO THEM!!!!!! !subject lines, blog posts — FRAME IN BENEFITS FRAME IN BENEFITS FRAME IN BENEFITS

expectation effect. quality = performance – expectations. think zappos. if expectations are sooooo high then you better better overdeliver. in general you should always overdeliver.

japanese concept of kaizen, which emphasizes the continual improvement of a system by eliminating muda (waste) via a lot of very small changes. many small improvements, consistently implemented, inevitably produce huge results. make it a daily practice – make sure your INFRASTRUCTURE makes it EASY

the purpose of a custom isn’t to get a sale. the purpose of a sale is to get a customer.

“it is unusual, and indeed abnormal, for a concern to make money during the first several years of its existence. the initial product and initial organization are never right.”
-harvey s. firestone, founder of the firestone tire and rubber company

the central insight that a dollar today is worth more than a dollar tomorrow can be extended to apply to many common financial situations. for ex, the time value of money can help you figure out that max. to pay for a business that earns 200k/profit a year. assuming an interest rate of 5%, no growth, and a foreseeable future of ten years, the”present value” of that series of future cash flows is $1.544mm – if you pay less than that amount, you’ll come out ahead as long as your assumptions are correct (very big “if”, though. that’s why lean startup movement emphasizes establishing your assumptions as hypotheses and then rigorously testing them) <— I don’t really understand this one and how it applies.

human behavior: people act to control their perceptions. “the behavior of an organism is the output of control systems, and is performed with the purpose of controlling perceptions at desired reference values. behavior is the control of perception”. once your perception dips below reference threshold you then take massive action.
I am this kind of person. I have this kind of comfort. I have these kinds of relationships. I have this kind of popularity. I have this kind of financial success. I have this kind of success, compared to my friend John / my peer group.
People only start to expend effort if their Reference Levels are violated in some way (e.g. you become unpopular, John becomes more successful, etc.), so if their expectations aren’t violated, they simply don’t act.
for example: steve pavlina calls himself a “human alarm clock”. wakes up people sleeping thorugh life. jonathan safran foer, eating animals. some people don’t want knowledge because they don’t want to change their reference levels. Reference level is EXPECTATION about something–the range into which it’s “under control”. Absence blindness. By educating people you can change their reference levels.

Every time we recall something, the memory is saved in a different location, with a twist: the new memory will include any alterations we’ve made to it.

in re-create your life, morty lefkoe teaches a process that can be used to reintrepret past events in a simple and useful way:

1. identify the undesirable pattern
2. name the underlying belief
3. identify the source of the belief in memory, including as much sensory detail as possible
4. describe possible alternate interpretations of the memory
5. realize that your original belief is an interpretation, not reality
6. consciously choose to reject the original belief as “false”
7. consciously choose to accept your reinterpretation as “true”

reinterpret your past, and you’ll enhance your ability to make great things happen in the present

acts of willpower deplete relatively large amounts of glucose, and when those stores run low, we have a hard time using willpower to inhibit behavior.
change environment – steve pavlina: “your environment will eat your goals and plans for breakfast” – you’re not lazy/smart, your environment is supportive/unsupportive/you have developed processes/you haven’t. fundamental attribution error

personalize the results of your decisions and actions, and you’ll be far less likely to run afoul of cognitive scope limitation

cultivate the right associations and potential customers will want what you have even more. attractive woman and coke. brand image. jaguar.

absence blindness: human beings have a hard time realizing that something isn’t there

***if you’re trying to sell the absence or prevention of something, you’re fighting an uphill battle, even if your Product is great.
Always state benefits in Positive, Immediate, Concrete, and Specific terms by focusing on things the user can directly experience.

ways to add scarcity to your offer (see notes on cialdini’s influence): limited quantities; price increases; price decreases; deadlines.
electronic files can be duplicated infiinitely at essentially no cost, so the scarcity feels manipulative, which makes people want to buy from you less. price increases with deadlines, on the other hand, tend to work well.

there are only four ways to “Do” something: completion, deletion, delegation, and deferment

completion is best for important tasks that only you can do particularly well. everything else can be handled in another manner.
delegation – assigning the task to someone else – is effective for anything another person can do 80% as well as you can.
deferment – putting the task off until later – is effective for tasks that aren’t critical or time dependent.
deletion is effective for anything important or unnecessary.

reflection: how can you design your business to eliminate important tasks that only you can do particularly well??? e-myth revisited. PROCESSES.

five fold why – to help you discover what you actually want (core desire, underneath the specific goal). fivefold how is a way to connect your core desire to physical actions. list 5 possible options of how you can connect to your core desires directly.

carry around a notebook with a 3×5 index card. card contains a short list of active projects. notebook contains to-do list, the next actions that will move my projects forward. josh processes using a system called “autofocus”, which was created by mark forster. as long as projects are tied to goals and are aligned with my preferred emotional states of being, it’s only a matter of time before i complete them. autofocus can be found here: http://www.markforster.net/autofocus-system/
states of being = feelings = how can **I** make sure to align my projects->actions->activities with my states of being? and projects must serve my goals
goals must be positive (not couched in negative), immediately actionable, concrete, and specific (kind of like how to sell benefits of absence/prevention to customers)

parkinson’s law: time expands to fill allotted
ingvar kamprad, the founder of IKEA, once said “if you split your day into ten-minte increments, and you try to waste as few of those ten-minute increments as possible, you’ll be amazed at what you can get done”
for small tasks, use “ingvar’s rule” assume each task will take no more than ten mins to complete, then begin. this includes meetings and phone calls. what would you do if you only had 10m to get something done? act accordingly

energy cycling: some times our bodies get in upswing when we can be highly focused and very efficient
1. LEARN YOUR PATTERNS. use a notebook/calendar to track how mcuh energy you ahve during different parts of the day, as well as what you’re eating and drinking. if you do this for a few days, you’ll notice patterns
2. plan your day to take advantage of a peak cycle. e.g. creative work during peak cycle. plan important things during upcycle.
3. when in a down cycle — rest, don’t power through. go for a walk – meditate – take a 20minute nap.

have a real, human conversation with someone who’s actually done what you’re interested in doing: “i really respect what you’re doing, but i imagine it has high points and low points. could you share them with me? knowing what you know now, is it worth the effort?”

the best way to increase your Power is to do things that increase your influence and reputation. the more people know your capabilities and respect the Reputation you’ve built, the more Power you will have.

Communication overhead is the proportion of time you spend communicating with members of your team instead of getting productve work done. necessary, but after you have more than 5 to 8 people, at least 80% of your job is gonna be communication

how to make people feel important–give them your undivided focus: paying attention, listening intently, expressing interest, and asking questions.

STATE model to communciate without provoking anger or defensiveness:

1. Share your facts
2. Tell your story-from your point of view – taking care to avoid INSULTING or JUDGING
3. Ask for others’ paths – ask for the other persons’s side of the situation, what they intended & what they want
4. Talk tentatively – avoid conclusions, judgments, and ultimatums
5. Encouraging testing – make suggestions, ask for input, and discuss until you reach a productive & mutually satisfying course of action

^— how can i build this model into a process/checklist– to guide everyday decisionmaking and email communication. GMail plugin? testing for filters — anger keywords

golden trifecta – people have a fundamental need to feel important and safe
golden trifecta – josh kaufman’s personal 3 word summary of how to win friends and influence people.
Appreciation means expressing your gratitude for what others are doing for you, even if it’s not quite perfect. Apprecaition: “thanks-it’s clear you worked hard on this and i appreciate that. i’m not sure if we’re there yet, so here are a few ideas that may help…”
Courtesy is politeness, pure and simple. Courtesy is “accepting a small inconvenience on behalf of another person”
Respect is a matter of honoring the other person’s status. no matter how you relate to the person you’re communicating with, Respecting them as an individual is critical if you want to make them feel Important or safe, no matter how high or low their social status. being kind to the waitstaff, etc. treating other people poorly sends a clear signal to everyone that you can’t be trusted.

when asking for something, providing a reason why helps compliance (cialdini – influence)

general commander’s intent is much better way of delegating: whenever you assign a task to someone, tell them WHY it must be done!! the more your agent understands the purpose behind your actions, the better they’ll be able to respond appropriately when the situation changes.
–>field commander can use knowledge of the Goal, and fresh intelligence, to act in a new way that supports the original intent
alleviates communication overhead, too.
when you communicate the intent behind your plans, you allow the people you work with to intelligently respond to changes as they happen

bystander apathy: it’s far more effective to SINGLE SOMEONE OUT, make eye contact, POINT, and say very clearly – “YOU – CALL 911″. they will

dwight d eisenhower, no battle was ever won according to plan but no battle was ever won without one “plans are useless, but planning is indispensable”"

violating the norms of a group is a Social Signal that you don’t belong in the group

social signals are tangible indicators of some intangible quality that increases a person’s social status or group affiliation
^— very important

social signals have real economic value, so it pays to build them into your offer if you can. part of building a signaling value into something is understanding what people want to signal to other. signals go back to core human drives – acquisition . bonding . learning . defending . feeling – people want to signal that they’re:
wealthy, attractive, intelligent, high status, interesting, and confident
connecting your offer to one of these qualities via Association is a surefire way to make people Desire your offer more strongly.!!

social proof can take a life of its own. fads often form when one person takes an action, others perceive it as a Social Signal, then act the same way, creating a social FEedback Loop. pet rocks, yellow lance armstrong livestrong bracelets, viral videos, and stock market bubbles all gain power via social proof – if so many other people are doing it, it’s easy to come to the conclusion that you should probably do it too!!!!

— the popular person – the person with teh most capital – the person who sets the group norms – who most conforms to them?
google query: “how does a group norm become set?”

the most effective testimonials tend to follow this format: “i was interested in this offer, but skeptical. i decided to purchase anyway, and I’m very pleased with the end result”

work to establish yourself as an authority on what your’e offering, and people will be more likely to accept your offer

no one wants to be considered an “oath breaker”. commitments have ben used throughout history as a way of binding groups together. breaking a promise or commitment can often have a negative impact on social status and Reptuation, so most people will do whatever they can to act in ways that are Consistent with previous positions.
- i have personally found that not only publicly declaring a position helps you accomplish a goal, but also mentally antagonizing those who do not exhibit characteristics promoted by the goal

stories of past sales to encourage customer to like and trust him before selling process begins
obtain a small commitment, and you’ll make it far more likely that others will comply with your request

incentivization structure for salespeople: focus on making profitable sale versus sales at any cost

remind yourself to keep an open mind, and you’ll enhance your ability to make wise decisions (how to create a process for this?)

instead of dwelling on the problem, focus on your OPTIONS. ruminating on the issue doesn’t solve anything; what are you going to DO about it? by focusing your energy on evaluating potential responses, your’e far more likely to fin a way to make things better
focus on Options, not issues, and you’ll be able to handle any situation life throws at you

business-related KPIs are directly related to the 5 parts of every business (Value creation, marketing, sales, value delivery, finance).
q’s used to identify KPIs:

Value creation: how quickly is the system creating value? what is the current level of inflows?
marketing: how many people are paying attention to your offer? how many prospects are giving you permission to provide more information?
sales: how many prospects are becoming paying customers? what is the average customer’s lifetime value?
value delivery: how quickly can you serve each customer? what is your current returns or complaints rate?
finance: what is your profit margin? how much Purchasing Power do you have? Are you financially sufficient?

try to limit yourself to only 3 to 5 KPIs per system. when collecting measurements, it’s tempting to build a dashboard with every piece of desirable information. if you overload yourself with too much data, you’ll be far less likely to see changes that are critically important. find your system’s KPIs..

analytical honesty: measuring & analyzing the data you have- dispassionately. since we’re social creatures, we care about how others perceive us, which gives us a natural incentive to make things look better than they actually are. figure out ways to circumvent this natural bias: honesty is the first step towards increased profits. care more on long-term profits&viability over looking good.

incentive-caused bias and confirmation bias are all too easy to succumb to if your social status is on the line. having an experienced but dispassionate third party audit your measurement and analysis practices is a neat workaround for these tendencies: you might not like what you hear, but at least you’ll be fully aware of potential issues.

you can’t reliably optimize a system’s performance across multiple variables at once. pick the most important one and focus your efforts accordingly.

novelty – even highly-attention skilled WM “willpower depletion” resilient radar operators – get ADD after 10 minutes of focus looking for blips. institute policy of forced rotations, regular breaks.

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Notes from Heyzap CEO Immad Akhund’s talk on hiring as a marketing process

January 11th, 2011 — 6:46am

StartupDigest UNIVERSITY recently hosted its first event in a series of events called “Attracting, Hiring, and Retaining the Best People”. It’s in Palo Alto at the Wilson Sonsini offices (right on Page Mill and El Camino) and you can register for it here: http://sduniversityhiring.eventbrite.com/. Tonight, two people spoke: Heyzap CEO Immad Akhund and RapLeaf CEO Auren Hoffman. My laptop died during Auren’s presentation and I don’t have access to his slides yet so this post will focus on what I learned in Immad’s talk (brief notes from Auren’s presentation, which focused more on interviewing and candidate quality, appear at the end of this post).

Background: Heyzap is a YCombinator company. They have raised about $3.6mm in funding and currently have about 15 employees. They are a social games platform in a hot space. Immad was previously the founder of Clickpass (another YCombinator company) which was acquired by SynthaSite.

The theme of Immad’s talk is that hiring is a marketing process. Marketing, you say? Josh Kaufman (whose book I just read, and will be reviewing soon on ze zachary burt blog) says “marketing is the art of finding prospects, and getting their attention”. A mistake Heyzap realized early on was that just because they found a candidate they wanted to hire, the candidate didn’t necessarily care or want to work with them. Let’s see what kind of marketing tacks Heyzap has taken to work on that.

- They people they hired had seen or heard about them about 5 times in different places: job boards, TechCrunch, Hacker News, at a tech cocktail party, etc. This is reminiscent of the marketing “rule of 7″: your prospect needs to hear your marketing message seven times before they take action. Perhaps it would be worthwhile to try a retargeting campaign for your job listings.

- Their whole Jobs page is “built to sing”. They took the time to add pictures for their employees and emphasize their “fun” culture. (It seems at an SF startup, fun is a commodity prerequisite rather than a differentiator. Maybe I’ll build the ultimate un-fun company. We could be sponsored by the University of Chicago. Anyway..) They pitch themselves as exciting and fun and an amazing market opportunity, in a fun market, with traction. What Jobs We Are Hiring = exciting and fun with interesting specific challenges. If you’re stuck with regards to job ad copywriting, he recommends being inspired by other people’s job descriptions (maybe Heyzap’s!)

Other core takeway from his presentation

-For first hires, prepare to spend a couple months on the hiring process. Nowadays, Immad spends about 25% of his time hiring. It’s a leadership principle: you could spend 2 days building something, or 10 days hiring someone who can spend 365 building something.

-For a start-up, hire smart generalist coders over niche developers (e.g. iPhone, etc.). Smart developers can learn new technologies quickly (e.g. <1month) and you will probably be doing a lot of pivoting in the early stages, so you want people who can adapt. Moreover, there is no reason to unnecessarily limit your recruiting pipeline; by requiring your applicants to have experience with specific technology, you are going to be getting into contact with fewer total people. I quote: They have “never regretted going with a generalist”. But Immad cautions: for specific sales or business development roles, specific niche experience may be necessary.

-For reference checks, see if you can get one “behind their back” (asking someone whom they wouldn’t necessarily think to recommend them – just someone who knows them incidentally. Leveraging your network! This is another value of having a big network, and also being nice to everyone all the time (something I’m working on).)

-Decide “whom” you want to hire, with an emphasis on personality. Skills and intelligence are simply a prerequisite. Are they gonna listen to you & integrate feedback? Do they care more about doing the “correct” solution rather than a sufficient solution? Are they open to better ideas rather than being ego-attached to personally discovered ideas? Is it easy to work with them? These are all testable questions: simply do a 2-day work exercise with them. (Unpaid: this is a sanity check of their commitment to joining your company.)

-Once you have a person you want, “find out what they want & offer something better”

And now I’ll leave you with 23 hiring techniques and avenues that I learned from Mr. Akhund:

1. They offered a $100 prize to one random person who retweeted their job posting. This yielded 30 retweets and 5 qualified applicants.

2. When a company gets acquired, they would go email a bunch of the junior engineers, who just got a payday and may now be bored. Even if they did not get in touch right away, they began to build a relationship.

3. Mailing lists.

4. Forums and blogs. For example, Hacker news and Proggit. Perhaps think of spending a daily 20 minutes in high-quality thoughtful engagement and participation as a “tax” you must pay to get back from the communities. BTW, think, how else could you spend 20minutes/day in “tax” and get valuable returns? Reading.. meditation.. exercise..

5. Job boards. Indeed and Startuply have produced good results for Heyzap; he cautions that paid job boards have questionable ROI~~StackOverflow and Reddit have not worked well for him. He recommends “niche” boards; I know there are some JS-only job boards. Plus you can try JoelOnSoftware and 37signals.

6. Tech meetups

7. Hiring events

8. Conferences

9. College boards

10. Job fairs

11. Internships. Interns are typically looking for a stepping-path to a full-time job. But keep the quality threshold high — they have to be able to _get stuff done_.

12. Twitter

13. Employee friends (these tend to be high quality and good cultural fit)

14. Thought leadership: have your engineers blog about cool technologies they are developing

15. Contribution to open source projects. Alternatively, emailing open source contributors / “Show HN”-creators directly.

16. Tech press: e.g. a TechCrunch guest post that ends with a zingy “Heyzap is hiring”!

17. Networking: relentlessly asking people..

  1. Are they available to join?
  2. Do they have a friend who they can recommend?
  3. Are they bored at work?
  4. If they are entrepreneurs: ask them about what channels are working for them

Persistence pays off, and Immad admits it’s something of a numbers game.

18. Craigslist: this is good for hiring designers and non-technical interns.

19. Developer hack days & other events

20. On campus recruiting: Stanford, CMU, Harvard, MIT & Purdue have yielded high quality candidates for heyzap

21. Offer hiring bonuses ($2k-$10k)

22. Email a list of entrepreneur friends. Just because someone’s not the best fit for someone else, doesn’t mean they can’t be a great fit for you.

23. Hiring a full-time recruiter (paid hourly to ensure they are properly incentivized; i.e., they don’t try to get you to hire just anyone since a crappy hire yields a better bonus than no hire)


Note’s from RapLeaf CEO Auren Hoffman’s talk (I apologize for the excessive conciseness..Hoffman is a brilliant rationalist (he recognizes psychological biases encountered during work and has developed processes to defend against them), and his wisdom deserves to be shared).

  • The candidate’s resume is a marketing tool to sell themselves. Once they’re in the door (they get an interview), throw it away; it will bias you.
  • Spend 15-30 min preparing before meeting them. Set an agenda, be focused and analytical in your process. Know which traits you want to suss out: are they analytical? are they a good cultural fit? etc.
    • Auren likes to keep four go-to questions he asks every candidate. He shared some of his old ones, e.g. If you were an engineer at LinkedIn, how would you implement the degrees of separation functionality? :)
  • A good communicator lays out the basic schema foundation for you, and then proceeds to build on each additional layer until you can understand what they’re talking about. If someone talks and you don’t understand them, it’s not that they’re smart, it’s that they’re a bad communicator.
    • In the interview, get them to teach you something that they are passionate about. This tests whether they are a good communicator, and whether they are a passionate person
  • Don’t ask them about YOUR company (“What would you do in this scenario which we recently faced”), because you have unfair domain knowledge. They can acquire domain knowledge later.
  • If an interview question you ask them is legitimately interesting, then they will probably be asking their friends about it. Ask interesting questions.
    • If the candidate keeps following up with you about an interesting interview question, then they’re probably a good candidate (passionate.
    • Don’t ask questions they may have heard in previous interviews; you get poor quality data from this.
  • Pick three qualities each person in your company must have. For RapLeaf, they must be (1) scary smart, (2) calm and kind, and (3) get things done. Not having any one of these qualities is a deal breaker. Hiring people who are really smart yet not especially kind, or don’t get things done because they rest on their laurels and aren’t extremely driven towards self-improvement, have generally been bad apples.
  • Since you are picking growth-driven people, it’s okay to hire smart people directly out of college if they have the core character attributes. You can then train them to quickly develop leadership qualities. If you hire senior management people from outside who haven’t been inculcated in your company’s values, they often corrupt the company culture.

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Big ideas from Marty Cagan’s “Inspired” that helped me feel more confident on how to proceed with my business

January 10th, 2011 — 1:21am

This week I finished reading Inspired: How To Create Products Customers Love. It’s by Marty Cagan, who was formerly a big deal at HP, eBay, and Netscape. I’ve read a ton of books over the past year, and this has easily been the most valuable business book I’ve come across recently. Doing a startup can be such a confusing and hazy process: “I don’t know what I’m doing!” “Am I doing the right things?” “Am I going down the wrong road?” “There’s no one to give me all the answers!”

True, critical thinking is a crucial skill. But this book has helped teach me how to think.

I really like this one: it’s staying in my library. If I ever hire a product manager, this book is going to be part of the training syllabus.

Let’s talk about the reasons it was so valuable:

  • I strongly feel (and think) that I am going to be more organized in how I think about business. I feel more confident, and less like I’m in the middle of a chaotic whirlwind.
  • Reading the book helped inspire what I think will be big improvements to my business strategy, but also real things I can implement today: A/B tests to try, concrete ways to improve my customer service/satisfaction, etc. I added about 16 lines to my long-term TODOLIST…
  • It uses ideas that are popular in the “Lean Startup”/”Customer Development” movements and presents them in a cohesive and coherent framework. However, I have been thinking/reading/hearing about these ideas for a while, so the prior exposure (schema foundation) perhaps helped them finally fit into place. Then again, this is perhaps an example of the ATTRIBUTION ERROR: my circumstances have changed (I’m spending lots of time actually working on products rather than reading about other people doing it), and therefore have more personal-experience nodes in my semantic web, which is helping everything fit into place.

Two important caveats:

(+) This book is intended for people managing web software, but its principles can easily be extended to other kinds of business.
(+) I am not deeply experienced! These are all concepts that sound appealing on paper and have been very successful for certain people, but I don’t have any empirical knowledge that they’re successful, save from my own minor successes — my process in the past has applied similar ideas, but they haven’t been as well articulated/defined and conceptually separated!

Ok, onward…here are the nine big ideas (the concept of “Big Ideas” is borrowed from my friend Brian Johnson, author of the Philosopher’s Notes series as well as the new book A Philosopher’s Notes – On Optimal Living. A must-read…)

(1) Successful products are Valuable, Usable, and Feasible. It is the product manager’s job to discover a product that’s VUF: “the central responsibility of the product manager is to make sure that you deliver to engineering a product spec that describes a product that will be successful”.

(2) Engineers think in terms of implementation models. Users think in conceptual models. If you spot a product whose User Experience is built based on implementation rather than user conceptual models, there’s probably an opportunity to innovate.

(3) Charter User Programs: try to get 10 happy, live, reference-able customers from your target market by the time you launch. Not “Early adopters” — real customers who feel the problem pain hard and recognize that they want to solve it. You explain to them your goal is not to build a custom solution but instead a sustainable business; you are deeply committed to building a product that works for them. And they will pay for it: (once you deliver them a product they love — they don’t have to pay to participate in the program). You will be showing them prototypes, testing with their users, asking hundreds of detailed questions, testing release candidates in their environment. If you are having trouble recruiting reference users it means you’re chasing a problem that isn’t very important: this is a really, really important reality check. And when you launch, they’re happy with it, and happy to provide you a testimonial.

(4) There’s a difference between a UX (user experience) designer and a Visual Designer. The UX designer is an interaction designer, whose job is to determine tasks, navigation & a workflow that’s VUF. The product manager listens to problems; the UX designer designs solutions. The UX designer should be heavily involved in creating the prototype for customers to use.. they should have an active involvement before engineering gets involved. Once the prod mgr/UX designer have determined a VUF product, then it should get passed on to engineering. Step 1, UX design. Step 2, Engineering builds the product based on the high-fidelity prototype. This is to be done in serial, not parallel! In other words, the ultimate job of the UX designer is to make wireframes (which engineering uses to make a crude but high-fidelity prototype).

Once engineering has the finalized high-fi prototype [see idea #9 for a discussion of prototype] in their hands, THEN the visual designer can step in. They can take take the wireframes, and determine the look & feel. They can choose the layout, colors, and fonts — choosing how to communicate & evoking emotion in the product.

If you are in a startup and have antsy engineering resources, who are itching to work on something, once you have a vague notion of how the prototype is going to function, you can have them start preparing infrastructure for later: continuous integration; staging/dev/production environments; testing; SCM best practices. And give engineering 20% headroom in order to rewrite, rearchitect, refactor, etc. Think of this as a tax you must pay.

Still confused? Here’s a diagram I made to illustrate. I think in real life, especially in small start-up companies, one person will probably play the role of both product manager and the UX designer.

Product Mgr - UX Designer - Engineering - Visual Designer - Users

Diagram illustrating relationship between Users, UX, Product Manager, Engineering

(5) There’s a difference between product management and product marketing. Product marketing is responsible for generating awareness of a product and getting it into the hands of customers. Product management is responsible for building a great product that customers will love. It is rare that someone can be skilled at both roles – and at the very least, separating the roles conceptually enables more clear thinking.

(6) Important traits for a product manager to have: this is a long list, so feel free to skip to #7.

  • sense of urgency
  • identify and frame problems, & run constructive meetings
  • solution-focused, data-driven thinking
  • decisive
  • judgment. when to push/escalate/get more info/take someone aside
  • product passion
  • customer empathy
    • understands their values, priorities, perceptions, tolerances, experiences
    • has empathy for their level of technical understanding
    • respects them
    • works closely with the customer during every stage: on campus interviews, present for usability testing, etc.
  • intelligence
  • work ethic
  • integrity
    • mutual trust & respect (via integrity) will make him an effective persuader
    • understanding the job of, and respecting, team members
    • handling self under stress
  • confidence – persuading others that the product can / should be built
  • attitude
    • no excuses
    • give credit, take blame
    • knows team is realizing HIS product vision
  • applying technology
    • knows what’s possible.
    • e.g., reading sites like Hacker News to make sure has knowledge of latest technical developments
    • many products emerge because they are just now possible to build, thx to technical innovations
  • focus
  • eliminating features. think MINIMUM VIABLE (== valuable, usable & feasible) PRODUCT
  • time management
  • communication skills: speaking, writing, presenting
    • recommended book on presenting: Weissman’s *Presenting To Win*
    • presentations have few slides – the presenter is knowledgeable — and they have Relevant data points
    • unambiguously states main points & what he needs from the audience
  • business skills: finance/marketing technology, MBA-style
  • domain expertise:
    • dangerous, because makes assumptions about domain/customer/market that go untested
    • should take 1-3 months of aggressive catching up to get up to speed in product domain: OK to hire smart & capable/skilled people otherwise unfamiliar
  • use data & facts when presenting potential options — not opinion. the HiPP (highest paid person) gets to decide/ offer opinion
  • low-maintenance: writes short emails
  • when meeting about features/product decisions, determine consensus privately, before voting in a public forum
    • this may or may not be a wise general principle – for “politicking” –aka group social skills
  • knows the product principles ~ guiding values/ethics for product, and prioritization of them. knows goals and objective for product: can utilize this frame during difficult decisionmaking. Personal Development blogger Steve Pavlina has articles on values, and i found these (one and two) to be especially helpful.

(7) Net Promoter Score: ask your customers how likely they are to recommend the product, on a scale of 1-10?
- 9-10 are evangelists. 7-8 are neutral or lukewarm. 1-6 are detractors and may actively be campaigning against you
This frame helps you understand that doing custom client work may be worthless in that it is not an investment in NPS, and should be considered accordingly.

(8) Typical corporate paradigm. PM creates MRD (marketing requirements document), assessing opportunities. Then creates PRD (product requirements document), a solution /spec for engineering to build on. Better model is the Product Opportunity Assessment!

1. Exactly what problem will this solve? (value proposition)
2. For whom do we solve that problem? (target market)
3. How big is the opportunity? (market size)
4. How will we measure success? (metrics / revenue strategy)
5. What alternatives are out there now? (competitive landscape)
6. Why are we best suited to pursue this? (our differentiator)
7. Why now? (market window)
8. How will we get this product to market? (go-to-market strategy)
9. What factors are critical to success? (solution requirements)
10. Give the above, what’s the recommendation? (go or no-go)

(9) A typical “spec” document will have features listed in a P1/P2/P3 trichotomy: P1 = must have; P2 = high want; P3 = nice to have.
Instead, build a high-fidelity prototype before having engineering build the real product.
The prototype should only be shipping the minimal VUF feature set: “P1″ only. You can use dummy data / faked back-end processing, etc., but all the features that will be in the real, shipped product should be present in the prototype. This forces you to judiciously evaluate product requirements.
Though high-fidelity to feature requirements, the prototype is to be thrown away later — you should not build reusable code here; strictly “duct tape” code.
You can then put the prototype in front of actual users, and ask them if it’s valuable. You can also see if it’s usable.
It’s easy to make HTML&CSS prototypes, even for android/iphone thanks to cool CSS frameworks.

This is a book that I suspect I will coming back to time and time again… it’s convenient, too, because the book is organized into 41 discrete chapters. I have left the author, Marty Cagan, a 5 star review on Amazon. The book costs $29.35 on Amazon but only $9.99 on Kindle. I opted to read to get the hardcover, which is great because Kindles are difficult to flip through – and difficult to loan to people.

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Dealing better with people: reflections from Goleman’s Social Intelligence

January 7th, 2011 — 6:33am

I.

Subterranean Emotional Economy: Everyone Knows What You’re Feeling, All The Time

Our emotions are constantly being broadcast. People may or may not be aware of their presence on this subterranean party chat-line, but they’re being affected nonetheless. Emotional contagion is the basis for the notion of the “emotional economy”: whenever we interact with another human, there’s always this give and take of emotion. Contagion occurs in small groups, too. Say you have 3 people sitting face to face with each other in silence for a few minutes. In the absence of an explicit power hierarchy (e.g., you all work in the same office, or are part of the same social club) the person with the most emotionally expressive face – the most powerful person – will set the shared emotional tone.

People who feel threatened or anxious are especially prone to catching other people’s emotions. See, they’re feeling threatened and anxious, so they’re less powerful to begin with; but also, evolutionarily, they’re more likely to benefit from catching someone else’s fear — e.g. they see a tiger, it’s time to book it.

Truly socially intelligent people can not only be aware of the social intentions of everyone in the room, but they can even direct them — by consciously modifying their attention/body language, and letting other people follow. They have the ability to construct their emotions in a top-down way via cognitive reframing, rather than be subject to bottom-up bubbling & incipient rationalization.

II.

Loneliness vs. Social Synchrony: Feeling Socially Accepted

Feeling lonely sucks. Some scientists captured a rhinovirus and exposed people to it – compared to people with strong social ties, lonely people were 4.2x more likely to come down with a cold. But what makes people feel lonely is the quality of our interactions: are they warm or emotionally distant? Are they supportive or negative? Feelings of inclusion depend not so much on having frequent social contacts or numerous relationships as on how accepted we feel, even in just a few key relationships. People who are made to feel left out or who are reminded that they belong to an “outsider” group — can plummet into a state of distractedness, anxious preoccupation, lethargy, and a sense that their lives are meaningless.

In a situation where we feel we are being judged or evaluated, cortisol levels can shoot through the roof. I mentioned this to be one reason why people choke under pressure.

The opposite of loneliness and feeling judged is the truest sense of belonging: being in synch with your environment. See, synchrony sends message: “I’m with you” – an implicit “please continue”. When two people get out of synchrony with each other, it’s a natural signal that a conversation is about to end. Being in synchrony calms you – it opens up more working memory resources — so you have less unpleasant arousal. You’ll fidget less. You’ll feel calm. You’ll perform better. But be warned! Intentionally matching someone – imitating the position of their arms, or taking on their posture – does not in itself heighten rapport. What you should do instead is structure your life so you spend more time with people you naturally “click” with — not micromanage your behavior from situation-to-situation to try to induce a click.

III.

Secure Base: A Support Network Helps You Achieve Great Things

A tone of voice that shows concern and emotional engagement makes a doctor’s words seem more helpful. And the more satisfied the patients, the better they could recall the physician’s instructions and greater their compliance. It follows the adage from Maxwell’s 21 Laws of Leadership: people don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.

When we are young children, we look to our parents to provide a “secure base” for us. We can neurally “loop up” with our caregiver – and when in a negative mood, ping off their positivity and then internalize the ability to soothe our own emotions. Even adult caregivers like nurses and social workers benefit from a secure base: “when [the social workers] felt cared about themselves, they were more willing and able to be active caregivers in their work”.

When undergoing a dangerous pursuit with a hazy outcome – like, starting a company – it can be helpful to have someone to provide a secure base for you in times of stress. This helps you reframe obstacles as challenges, not threats – which is paramount when starting a company, because you need to be working at a proactive, high-level pace. And for this reason, startup incubators like YCombinator and TechStars have taken off.

IV.

Practical and Realistic Ways To Leverage These Ideas For a Healthier Emotional Life

Take the METT, Take The SETT: both are available at http://face.paulekman.com/products.aspx.
Stop multitasking when interacting with people. Put away the iPad, put away the iPod, don’t text and don’t tweet. Don’t take calls without someone else’s permission. When you are with someone, tune in. Speak with them, not at them.
If possible, maintain regular contact with people who fully accept you (people who are fully aware of your faults yet still enjoy to be your friend).

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This article was inspired by Daniel Goleman’s Social Intelligence. It is available for $9.47 on Amazon. You might also be interested to read my written articles based on Paul Ekman’s Emotions Revealed or Daniel Goleman’s Emotional Intelligence.

Apologies to The Last Psychiatrist for inspiring the layout for this article.

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